The wonderful world of lingerie

When we first began exploring our new lifestyle, I never imagined my husband would wear complete lingerie sets to work each day........Nor did I think I would be okay with it.....enjoy it.  I look forward to getting a daily lingerie photo from him each morning.  There's something about staring at your submissive in a bra and panties while you drink your coffee that makes the day enjoyable.  There were a couple of weeks while he was remodeling our bathroom that he didn't wear lingerie each day and I truly missed these photos.

When I got home from work, I put on my black sheer nylons, silky purple with black lace panties, and a black lace nightie.  I felt sexy.  I told my submissive to put on his mini skirt, nylons and heels.....we needed to clean.  We sipped bourbon while we cleaned and teased each other.  When we were finished, I made him kiss my feet and massage my nylons.  My orgasm last night was amazing, the feel of his warm mouth on my toes as my orgasm ripped through my body was beyond pleasure. 

And for my submissive....last night was complete denial...he stayed locked in his cage, only touching my feet. 

Love my life.....love my submissive.....

30 days

Wow, that has been a long hiatus from blogging.  If you've been following subhubby, he's been more active in updating about our chastity life.  Regular life has been crazy and with some home remodels, he was out of his cage for way too long.  It's now been 30 days since his last orgasm. I hope you have been reading my submissive's blog to find out that he made it 90 days without an orgasm in March.  I've hinted at different milestones that I may make him get to this time......When I finish college in November......New Years, his birthday in December......truth is, I don't even know yet.  We play so much more when he's locked and I constantly feel empowered and turned on.  During his extended stance of being out of chastity, I was beginning to feel as though he didn't want to be submissive and he wanted to go back to vanilla....... :( who would prefer that over our current relationship? 

Sex Toy Holiday

We haven't been kinky for our entire relationship, but Valentine's day has never been about flowers, jewelry, and the "traditional" money making celebrations.  It is a day for funny cards, which have gotten more inappropriate and fabulous over the years and most recently, new sex toys.  

Sex toy holiday is a fun excuse to get new toys.  Last year we purchased a Liberator flip ramp.  This has been an amazing addition to the bedroom, if you don't have one......they're worth the money.  We use it for multiple positions.  It's fun to make my submissive bend over it while I enter him with my strap on.

This year.......We decided we had enough toys and would purchase lingerie.  This year he got to model his lingerie, but mine has yet to arrive.  Sex toy holiday marked 72 days since submissive's last orgasm, as well as one whole month since he'd had an erection.  I think that it was just as hard for me to not get him out, as it was for him to be caged for so long.  One of my favorite ways to tease him is to get him hard, bring him to the edge, and deny him.....NOT once....but multiple times in the evening. 

So this year, after a glass of wine.....I did just that.......It was fabulous. I came, he didn't, but we were both satisfied.

Pleasantly Uncomfortable

Subhubby pointed out that January 14th was International Male Chastity day.  Essentially, my submissive is to be locked up until February 14th........not allowed out......not allowed to cum.......no erections......

He was so sure I'd let him cum the night before.  I led him to think this.  I numbed him, made him hard and allowed him the pleasure of fucking me for as long as I could take.  I was pleasantly sore when we were finished, but it felt so good. 

It's just a month until February 14th, not so hard, right?.......Today marks day 52 without an orgasm, so he was clearly denied for days before Chastity day.  But will he be able to cum on February 14th???  (***Mistress gives evil laugh***)  Only time will tell....

It feels so powerful to control his orgasms.  Furthermore, it's a testament to the trust we have for each other.  Trusting in the exploration of our sexual experiences, knowing that we've changed since our relationship first began, and we'll continue to evolve. 

His submission never ceases to amaze me.  Wanting to provide full pleasure to me.......When we first began this new lifestyle, I would cave after a few days.  I felt bad if I didn't let him cum at least once per week.  But now, I see how pleasantly uncomfortable he gets when I deny him.  It's pleasurable to me to hear him moan and beg to cum, but of course, I don't.  I now focus on ways that I can tease him, ways to keep him constantly aroused.  Yesterday, I controlled his Lovesense Hush butt plug from an app on my phone.  We weren't even in the same county and yet I held the power to make him aroused and wanting more.  The best part....he didn't know what vibration pattern would come, or when it would happen.  Win for the Mistress.

Please.......Let....Me...Back.....In.....My.....Cage

As of today, it's been 36 days since my submissive last had an orgasm.  It has been extremely fun to tease and deny him.  The last two weeks have been the most fun because he is so close to coming just with a few strokes.  Super power of the Mistress!  

A few nights ago, I made my submissive put on his maid outfit and do some chores.  He had to unload/reload the dishwasher, put away his laundry.....all while displaying his heels.  He also had his Lovesense butt plug in while doing his chores.  I was able to send him a few patterns to tease him.

After his chores there was time for fun.  I let him out of his cage, made him shave and be smooth, I can't stand it when he is hairy.......I masturbated while he was in the shower, enjoying a pleasurable orgasm.  When he came out, I let him inside of me.  I brought him to the edge more times than I can count but denied him from his release.  I teased him until he said... Please Mistress let me back in my cage......

A Friday Surprise

Last Friday, I gave subhubby a surprise.  It came from HommeMystere; a site that specializes in lingerie for men.  This wasn't the first time we purchased from this site; we've been pleased with both shipments.  The last purchase; subhubby picked out the order; I gave him control to choose what he liked and surprise Me.  This time, I did the choosing.  What do you think???  He looks great, doesn't he?  And he even modeled for me, such a good little submissive.

Men's lingerie is a new avenue we've been exploring.  As we meet new friends and explore our lifestyle, we're finding more things we like and want to try.

I NEED him!

Subhubby and I have been quite busy lately and unfortunately it hasn't been in the bedroom involving teasing.  There was one night in the last two weeks that we played and I enjoyed so many O's I can't even remember.....was it 6??? was it 7????  An Orgasm is such a stress reliever and relaxation for me.  To give is sometimes just as great as receiving.  On this same night, I was massaging subhubby's cock with my hand, listening to his moans to guide my speed, the firmness in which I was holding him and bringing him right to the edge.  It was so pleasurable to me to hear his moans........and it was just as nice to feel him quiver and thrust into my hand as I allowed him to O that night.......an O so intense that he could feel tingling in his toes.......But Tonight..........

Yes, tonight.....I plan to tease him long time and not let him O.  Right now he's in the shower preparing himself.  I like him smooth.....all over.......Being the obedient sub that he is, he's going to please me tonight......and then when he gets out of the shower, he's going to numb himself.  I need a long, hard, fucking, and I want to be sure he feels pleasurably frustrated when we're finished.  

Frustration

Subhubby got a new toy last week.  It's a butt plug from Lovense called Hush........It's description should be anything but hush.  It's an amazing vibrating toy.  When we first used it, he would receive an alert before a vibrating pattern would begin, but he didn't know when or which one would be coming.  I sent short ones here and there, just to keep him on his toes....or bring him to his knees I should say.  The last one of the evening I sent him was called Frustration...It was meant to be an 8 minute pattern.  I of course masturbated in bed next to him while it was vibrating and it just seemed to keep going.  He of course, kept moaning and begging to cum.  I did what any good mistress would do.  I enjoyed 3 orgasms myself and continued to deny him of any.  When I was finished, I thought to myself, wow, 3 orgasms in 8 minutes, that's crazy!  It turned out that it had been over 16 minutes long and it was still going!  Frustration was definitely a fitting title for this pattern. 

Stipulations

My Subhubby and I got some time to play this weekend. Most nights, I like to tease him and then put him back in his cage or just leave him in the cage and not let him cum. Last night, I wanted something different. I wanted to let him out of his cage, feel him instantaneously get hard and put a toy in his ass.

His orgasms are so much more intense with the stimulation from the toy as he thrusts inside of me.

I told him he could cum, IF.........an orgasm with stipulation. He could pick the position, but he must be able to thrust inside of me 11 hard times.  This doesn't sound like much, but when it's been nearly 3 weeks since his last orgasm, he could cum with just a few.

Attempt number one was unsuccessful..... 3 ruined orgasms and 5 total attempts later and he was able to experience a satisfactory orgasm..... It was quite an enjoyable evening for us both.

Vacation

If you read subhubby's latest blog post, you know that we recently came back from a vacation.  We traveled with only a carry-on and other family, so we unfortunately opted to leave his cage at home.  It felt good coming back and teasing him again.  6 days of no teasing is so boring!  When we got home on Monday, we were exhausted from traveling but wanted each other.  After a shower, I told him to leave the cage off.  Can you believe after being out of the cage for 6 days, he thought I would let him cum?? ;)  My orgasms that evening were fabulous.  In between each one, I brought him to the edge with my magic wand.  He says he loves to watch me cum, I really enjoy watching his face as he moans in pleasurably agony.  So did he get to cum????  No, but I think he had fun.  I did let him get behind me and fuck me.  I told him if he could thrust deeply 12 hard times, he could cum.  Secretly, I knew he couldn't make it after how many times I brought him to the edge, but it was felt so good to feel him try.  He made it to 8 and then had a ruined O......After this, he's locked away.

So for me, the saying is true.  It's nice to go away on vacation, but there truly is no place like home.....with your husband submissively locked away in his cage......allowing you to tease him and bring him to the edge and then denying his orgasm.

trick or treat?

10/31-Also known as Halloween.  A day for children to dress as their favorite super hero or character.  A night for us to play in our new sexy lingerie and wear our masks.  So what will subhubby get for Halloween???  Will it be a trick?  Or will it be a treat? 

I think tonight we'll let luck play a role in the festivities.....a roll of the dice and sexy lottery ticket..... Who knows, maybe he'll get lucky and he will get to use a sex position with his mistress, or maybe it's another evening locked up...... Too early to tell!

New version of normal

I never thought our sex life would be so much different after having a child.  It is completely different and so much better; friends always say how much worse it was after having a child.  Sure, the first year after a child was a readjustment, but I like to think of that time as resetting our passion for each other.  

Fast forward to 3 years later and we're planning our date nights around having enough time for kinky sex.  There was much anticipation to our overnight getaway this weekend.  We've talked for weeks about where we would go, and what we would do.  As we packed for our overnight trip, our small carry-on suitcase was equally full of clothes and toys.  Adult toys, and so many of them.  I packed my strap-on penis in anticipation of teasing my submissive with it.  We also came across a toy that we don't play with often; a double penis.  We couldn't remember why we don't use it, but thought we could pack it for the trip.  

We had a fabulous time exploring a couple of wineries and taking a scenic drive; it's nice to have adult conversation once in a while.  We checked into our hotel, changed, and went out for a delicious dinner.  Back at the hotel, we couldn't keep our hands off of each other.  We took some photos and eventually made it into the shower, where I allowed my submissive to enter me.  It wasn't very long and then he was begging to cum.  Of course, being the Mistress I am, I told him no.  I made him ruin his orgasm in the shower and then come back inside of me for more thrusting.  

After the shower, I used my wand for 2 phenomenal orgasms.  After this, I climbed onto the chaise sofa and put my end of the dildo inside.  Sub hubby climbed on top and rode me for an extended period of time.  It's such a rewarding site to watch his face as he moves in and out.  I stroked his penis as he continued to move.  It wasn't long and he couldn't help but the cum came flying, another ruined orgasm.  Sub hubby had 4 ruined orgasms that night.....but never the pleasure of a real one.  We'll be using this toy more often!

Why would we do this?  Kinky sex is our new normal and it has added such an element of pleasure and ecstasy that I didn't know was possible.  We may not have traditional sex frequently, but all of the time we spend playing with each other is beyond amazing.  I would absolutely recommend exploring with your partner to anyone that is questioning if they should.  Your new norm may not be the same as mine, but I hope you enjoy it. 

Punishment

In my last post, I wrote about subhubby disobeying me.  He unlocked himself, masturbated and had an orgasm while I was working late.  Mistress was not happy with this behavior.  Subhubby wrote in his blog about his punishment.  He also wrote that before this happened, he thought I was just playing along with Chastity, he didn't realize I was serious.  I think now he may know, Mistress will not be taken lightly.

His punishment lasted for 5 days.  He was left unlocked and given multiple orgasms.  To some men, this may not seem like punishment at all, it may seem great.  For someone in Chastity, being unlocked is taking you away from your comfort zone.  I felt that if subhubby wanted to be out to masturbate while I was working, his punishment was to be unlocked for an extended period of time. 

I got to tie him up, tease him and make him explode.  I love when he gets behind me and plunges deep inside me; so I made him do that.  Then when he came, I made him lick his cum from my body.  His punishment ended after he masturbated to the same video as the night I was working.  It didn't take me long to enjoy 2 toe curling orgasms that night; it also didn't take long for him to explode. 

After this last orgasm, I told him to clean up and then lock himself back up.  I think he has learned his lesson, but it was certainly enjoyable to punish him.

As subhuby wrote about, we both enjoy having sex with each other.  I wouldn't trade him for the world.  We have just figured out that we are not vanilla sex people, we love ways to spice up our lives and Chastity has certainly help us with this. Love you subhubby!