What changed?

Tonight sub hubby asked me what it was that made me change into a more dominating Mistress?  If you've been following our blogs, you'll know that when we first started experimenting with chastity I was not very dominating as a Mistress.  I would feel guilty for denying him and last minute tell him to cum.  One thing that did help was a book I would recommend to newbs; A Keyholders handbook by Georgia Ivey Green.  This was an easy read and provided many ideas that I still use today.  Something else that helped was actually work related and not sexual at all.  I began a masters program last year and have been taking some leadership courses offered through work with aspirations to one day be a manager.  These courses made me feel more confident in myself at work which in turn, helped me to feel more confident as a Mistress.  Each day is a new experience for us and we are loving this journey.
Continue following sub hubby and I as we share more about our lifestyle.
Until next time
~Mistress Good Wife

Caged cock or free cock?

If you've read subhubby's latest blog, you know that he is unlocked for a week due to an upcoming doctor appointment.  I've always loved the power of stroking him hard. Long before we began experimenting with chastity, I would get wet just by feeling his hard cock. I've often made him stroke his cock while I masturbate beside him because it turns Me on to hear his hand rubbing up and down to stroke his cock.

I've really come to enjoy Chastity.  I was skeptical at first. Why would he want to be locked up, isn't that weird? Would I really enjoy controlling when he gets hard and can O?  Yes, yes, yes!!! Being busy with work, home ownership, a child, and beginning a masters program last year all led to the decrease in sexual playing....... Chastity helped to increase our time together and we find that we play most nights of the week. Because of this, I will miss the case this week.

I will miss the cage, but also will enjoy his time out of the cage just because I love to walk up to him and feel his cock through his pants. I enjoy stroking him, bringing him to the edge but then denying his orgasms.

I'm also curious how he will do with the week of freedom. I've told him that I don't want him to masturbate without permission and an orgasm is off limits unless I give him instructions to cum. I enjoy watching his face while he cums, hearing his moans as he gets close..... It makes Me slightly jealous to find out he masturbates and I'm not watching.

We'll keep you posted about the week of freedom!

Mistress Good Wife

Satisfaction

sat·is·fac·tion

ˌsadəsˈfakSH(ə)n/

noun

noun: satisfaction; plural noun: satisfactions

1. fulfillment of one's wishes, expectations, or needs, or the pleasure derived from this.

When subhubby and I first began experimenting with the world of chastity, I wasn't completely on board, I felt guilty denying him orgasms and keeping him locked up.  Now, I know that his sexual frustration also satisfies him.  Sexual frustration of subhubby=Satisfaction of Mistress Good Wife.

I enjoy teasing his cock and receiving multiple orgasms.  Yes, multiple.  It satisfies me to have at least 2-3, sometimes more each day.  When subhubby is moaning in My ear, that just makes Me wetter, dripping by the time I even let him in, if he's lucky enough to get out of his cage.  If I really want to frustrate him, I'll make him put his cock in My pussy while he is still in his cage.  It's a different feeling that just putting him in bare, but it feels really good in My pussy and the by the moans he makes, I can tell he wants to cum..........Now this is satisfaction for Me.

I love it when he plays with My nipples.  I like it when he massages them lightly, flicks them with his fingers, licks them with his mouth, and then sucks them hard while doing some kind of magic with his tongue; it's truly amazing and I think I could cum just from this.  We've even experimented with nipple clamps in the past.

We've purchased a lot of sex toys over the years.  We have a large bin hidden in our bedroom confining our secret pleasures.  My favorite though being the hitachi magic wand, pictured below.  This feels so good vibrating on My clit, and delivers multiple orgasms that spread from My clit down to My toes, every time.  It plugs in, so no more wasting batteries on vibrators.  And, it's not only pleasurable to Me, I've given subhubby his fair share of orgasms with this wand and he has always enjoyed.

While I am sure the life of chastity is not for everyone, we are enjoying this sexual exploration with each other.  It satisfies us both in different ways.  We have been talking about adding an additional male to the bedroom, or going to a sex club to try something new.  Our sexual relationship has never been so exciting and fulfilling.

Until next time,
Mistress Good Wife

Me, the dominatrix wife

Dominatrix-a dominating woman.  When My submissive husband (subhubby) first began his time in chastity, I wasn't a very good mistress......In the heat of the moment and while being teased he would beg to cum, and most of the time I would let him.  I knew how good it felt for Me to cum and I wanted him to feel pleasure too.  I bought a book by Georgia Ivey Green, "A Keyholder's Handbook."  Being a newb to male chastity and being the dominating Mistress, I wanted to read more.  This gave Me more insight to the world of male chastity.  Subhubby told Me how much pleasure he had just from being teased and then denied.  Over time, I became a better dominant and no longer felt guilt when I didn't allow him to cum.

In addition to "A Keyholder's Handbook," I've also read blogs of other Mistresses and males in chastity.  I really believe that there is no one size fits all to being a Mistress and it needs to be tailored to fit your relationship.  As both subhubby and I mentioned in our first blogs, we look like any other normal couple on the outside.  Personally, I enjoy being a dominant wife in the bedroom, but I do not like the thought of dominating our entire relationship.  We talk to each other about what we like and what we don't, we're always evolving our relationship.

Tonight, I think I will have 4 orgasms while subhubby has none.  I want to unlock him, just to feel his hard cock in My wet pussy and tell him no when he is close to the edge.  I'll let him lick My nipples, suck them hard while I masturbate underneath him.  Just when I feel like he's ready to explode, I'm going to tell him to wash and lock up.  You'll have to ask him what that feels like.

I'm really enjoying sharing with everyone what it's like for Me as the mistress.  What would you like to know?  Follow My blog so you don't miss a post.  To hear from My submissive check out his blog and follow it- subhubbyinchastity.blogspot.com.

Until next time,
Mistress Good Wife

From vanilla to dominating

If you would have asked me 6 years ago if I thought I would be a mistress to my husband I would have confidently said no.  My husband and I started our sexual relationship as vanilla as it gets, there wasn't even a sex toy in our house.  I even remember having to refer to the internet while reading the fifty shades series.  But, somehow over the years we've changed.  It wasn't that vanilla sex wasn't good, but we decided to try new things.  First we started with a simple vibrator and then a dildo.  After sometime, we added an under the bed restraints, blindfolds, anal plugs, multiple other toys and my most favorite one ever......the hitachi magic wand.  If you don't have one, it's worth every penny, try it out and you won't be sorry.

I can't remember how long ago, but at some point My husband asked me what I thought about him wearing a chastity device.  At first, it seemed weird.  Why would he be into this?  How could I get off on My husband being locked in a chastity device.  He started out in a plastic chastity device for maybe a few days at a time.  We weren't real serious about chastity, it was just fun.  I used to feel guilty for teasing him and then not letting him cum.  Over the last year we've grown into the Mistress and the submissive.  My husband now spends most of his time locked in a chastity device and our sex life has never been better.  Outside of the bedroom we appear to be like any other couple.  We're married, we have a child, enjoy spending time with family and friends; it almost feels like we live in a facade.  There's this part of our lives that others know about, and then there's this life behind closed doors.  We're surely not the only couple out there like this, right?

Being a Mistress gives me a satisfying sense of power over My husband and has even made Me feel more confident in myself at work and in other aspects of My life.  I feel we're still new to chastity but love exploring with each other.  Blogging seemed like a great next step in our lives.  We want to share this world with others; let you know what it's like from both My perspective as the Mistress and My husband's as the submissive.  I'm new to blogging so I hope you enjoy.  To hear from him check out
subhubbyinchastity.blogspot.com.

Until next time,
Mistress Good Wife