A Friday Surprise

Last Friday, I gave subhubby a surprise.  It came from HommeMystere; a site that specializes in lingerie for men.  This wasn't the first time we purchased from this site; we've been pleased with both shipments.  The last purchase; subhubby picked out the order; I gave him control to choose what he liked and surprise Me.  This time, I did the choosing.  What do you think???  He looks great, doesn't he?  And he even modeled for me, such a good little submissive.

Men's lingerie is a new avenue we've been exploring.  As we meet new friends and explore our lifestyle, we're finding more things we like and want to try.

I NEED him!

Subhubby and I have been quite busy lately and unfortunately it hasn't been in the bedroom involving teasing.  There was one night in the last two weeks that we played and I enjoyed so many O's I can't even remember.....was it 6??? was it 7????  An Orgasm is such a stress reliever and relaxation for me.  To give is sometimes just as great as receiving.  On this same night, I was massaging subhubby's cock with my hand, listening to his moans to guide my speed, the firmness in which I was holding him and bringing him right to the edge.  It was so pleasurable to me to hear his moans........and it was just as nice to feel him quiver and thrust into my hand as I allowed him to O that night.......an O so intense that he could feel tingling in his toes.......But Tonight..........

Yes, tonight.....I plan to tease him long time and not let him O.  Right now he's in the shower preparing himself.  I like him smooth.....all over.......Being the obedient sub that he is, he's going to please me tonight......and then when he gets out of the shower, he's going to numb himself.  I need a long, hard, fucking, and I want to be sure he feels pleasurably frustrated when we're finished.  

Frustration

Subhubby got a new toy last week.  It's a butt plug from Lovense called Hush........It's description should be anything but hush.  It's an amazing vibrating toy.  When we first used it, he would receive an alert before a vibrating pattern would begin, but he didn't know when or which one would be coming.  I sent short ones here and there, just to keep him on his toes....or bring him to his knees I should say.  The last one of the evening I sent him was called Frustration...It was meant to be an 8 minute pattern.  I of course masturbated in bed next to him while it was vibrating and it just seemed to keep going.  He of course, kept moaning and begging to cum.  I did what any good mistress would do.  I enjoyed 3 orgasms myself and continued to deny him of any.  When I was finished, I thought to myself, wow, 3 orgasms in 8 minutes, that's crazy!  It turned out that it had been over 16 minutes long and it was still going!  Frustration was definitely a fitting title for this pattern. 

Stipulations

My Subhubby and I got some time to play this weekend. Most nights, I like to tease him and then put him back in his cage or just leave him in the cage and not let him cum. Last night, I wanted something different. I wanted to let him out of his cage, feel him instantaneously get hard and put a toy in his ass.

His orgasms are so much more intense with the stimulation from the toy as he thrusts inside of me.

I told him he could cum, IF.........an orgasm with stipulation. He could pick the position, but he must be able to thrust inside of me 11 hard times.  This doesn't sound like much, but when it's been nearly 3 weeks since his last orgasm, he could cum with just a few.

Attempt number one was unsuccessful..... 3 ruined orgasms and 5 total attempts later and he was able to experience a satisfactory orgasm..... It was quite an enjoyable evening for us both.

Vacation

If you read subhubby's latest blog post, you know that we recently came back from a vacation.  We traveled with only a carry-on and other family, so we unfortunately opted to leave his cage at home.  It felt good coming back and teasing him again.  6 days of no teasing is so boring!  When we got home on Monday, we were exhausted from traveling but wanted each other.  After a shower, I told him to leave the cage off.  Can you believe after being out of the cage for 6 days, he thought I would let him cum?? ;)  My orgasms that evening were fabulous.  In between each one, I brought him to the edge with my magic wand.  He says he loves to watch me cum, I really enjoy watching his face as he moans in pleasurably agony.  So did he get to cum????  No, but I think he had fun.  I did let him get behind me and fuck me.  I told him if he could thrust deeply 12 hard times, he could cum.  Secretly, I knew he couldn't make it after how many times I brought him to the edge, but it was felt so good to feel him try.  He made it to 8 and then had a ruined O......After this, he's locked away.

So for me, the saying is true.  It's nice to go away on vacation, but there truly is no place like home.....with your husband submissively locked away in his cage......allowing you to tease him and bring him to the edge and then denying his orgasm.

trick or treat?

10/31-Also known as Halloween.  A day for children to dress as their favorite super hero or character.  A night for us to play in our new sexy lingerie and wear our masks.  So what will subhubby get for Halloween???  Will it be a trick?  Or will it be a treat? 

I think tonight we'll let luck play a role in the festivities.....a roll of the dice and sexy lottery ticket..... Who knows, maybe he'll get lucky and he will get to use a sex position with his mistress, or maybe it's another evening locked up...... Too early to tell!

New version of normal

I never thought our sex life would be so much different after having a child.  It is completely different and so much better; friends always say how much worse it was after having a child.  Sure, the first year after a child was a readjustment, but I like to think of that time as resetting our passion for each other.  

Fast forward to 3 years later and we're planning our date nights around having enough time for kinky sex.  There was much anticipation to our overnight getaway this weekend.  We've talked for weeks about where we would go, and what we would do.  As we packed for our overnight trip, our small carry-on suitcase was equally full of clothes and toys.  Adult toys, and so many of them.  I packed my strap-on penis in anticipation of teasing my submissive with it.  We also came across a toy that we don't play with often; a double penis.  We couldn't remember why we don't use it, but thought we could pack it for the trip.  

We had a fabulous time exploring a couple of wineries and taking a scenic drive; it's nice to have adult conversation once in a while.  We checked into our hotel, changed, and went out for a delicious dinner.  Back at the hotel, we couldn't keep our hands off of each other.  We took some photos and eventually made it into the shower, where I allowed my submissive to enter me.  It wasn't very long and then he was begging to cum.  Of course, being the Mistress I am, I told him no.  I made him ruin his orgasm in the shower and then come back inside of me for more thrusting.  

After the shower, I used my wand for 2 phenomenal orgasms.  After this, I climbed onto the chaise sofa and put my end of the dildo inside.  Sub hubby climbed on top and rode me for an extended period of time.  It's such a rewarding site to watch his face as he moves in and out.  I stroked his penis as he continued to move.  It wasn't long and he couldn't help but the cum came flying, another ruined orgasm.  Sub hubby had 4 ruined orgasms that night.....but never the pleasure of a real one.  We'll be using this toy more often!

Why would we do this?  Kinky sex is our new normal and it has added such an element of pleasure and ecstasy that I didn't know was possible.  We may not have traditional sex frequently, but all of the time we spend playing with each other is beyond amazing.  I would absolutely recommend exploring with your partner to anyone that is questioning if they should.  Your new norm may not be the same as mine, but I hope you enjoy it. 

Punishment

In my last post, I wrote about subhubby disobeying me.  He unlocked himself, masturbated and had an orgasm while I was working late.  Mistress was not happy with this behavior.  Subhubby wrote in his blog about his punishment.  He also wrote that before this happened, he thought I was just playing along with Chastity, he didn't realize I was serious.  I think now he may know, Mistress will not be taken lightly.

His punishment lasted for 5 days.  He was left unlocked and given multiple orgasms.  To some men, this may not seem like punishment at all, it may seem great.  For someone in Chastity, being unlocked is taking you away from your comfort zone.  I felt that if subhubby wanted to be out to masturbate while I was working, his punishment was to be unlocked for an extended period of time. 

I got to tie him up, tease him and make him explode.  I love when he gets behind me and plunges deep inside me; so I made him do that.  Then when he came, I made him lick his cum from my body.  His punishment ended after he masturbated to the same video as the night I was working.  It didn't take me long to enjoy 2 toe curling orgasms that night; it also didn't take long for him to explode. 

After this last orgasm, I told him to clean up and then lock himself back up.  I think he has learned his lesson, but it was certainly enjoyable to punish him.

As subhuby wrote about, we both enjoy having sex with each other.  I wouldn't trade him for the world.  We have just figured out that we are not vanilla sex people, we love ways to spice up our lives and Chastity has certainly help us with this. Love you subhubby!

Disobedience

Definition of disobedience

:refusal or neglect to obey
One may say that I like to have control in my life.  I admit, I feel most comfortable when I feel as though I have control.  I don't have to make all decisions in life in order to have control, but never did I think as a mistress, there would be a time that I didn't have control over my submissive.  
Chastity is a different type of sexual relationship with my husband.  But even before we engaged in chastity, I loved being with him during his orgasms.  It has always made me feel slightly jealous if he masturbates when I am not with him and I find out about it.  This is totally a double standard though, because there have been more than one occasion that I have pleased myself without him home.  Since we now have a chastity relationship, I feel even more possessive of his orgasms.  Isn't that kind of the point?  I CONTROL when he cums, and I CONTROL when he doesn't.  
Last night I worked late due to a meeting.  After work, I needed to go to the grocery store.  It was late when I came home......Subhubby told me he had a confession.....he had gone to the garage and unlocked his cage without permission to clean his cage, himself and shave.  He did way more than this.....he pleasured himself to an orgasm.  If there is one way to deflate the ego of your mistress, this is it.  I felt betrayed and jealous.  His orgasms are few and far between these days, mostly just tease and denial, or ruined Os; I like to watch his face as he cums.  
As punishment, he has lost all earned points in our points game and is awaiting the rest of his punishment tonight.  I debate......deny him orgasms, or make him cum multiple days in a row?????  

The games we play

I must say that I enjoy playing games with my submissive.  Chastity is in a way an exciting game that is constantly played for us.  We are frequent shoppers to Adam and Eve; we're finding that we have pretty much something from every category on their website; which makes playing at home super fun!  I ordered a waterproof prostate massager for my submissive a few weeks ago, I love to tease his ass while he's locked up.  I had his wrists bound to his ankles and played with his ass last week.  He was begging to cum and it feels so good to tease him and tell him no.  The new toy was a hit.

Something else that came in that package were a new dice game and a lucky sexy scratch off ticket.  Unfortunately for him, his the scratch off ticket did not reveal 3 matching sex positions so he wasn't allowed out of his cage and into my pussy.  We just played the dice game over the weekend.  We each rolled 3 times, the dice allowed him to be spanked 2 times, me once and some massaging, but no penetration.

We're always looking for new games to play and I love to find new ways to tease my submissive husband.  Comment and let me know games you like to play.

The Masked Mistess

Subhubby and I recently made a purchase.  We bought masquerade masks to wear.  It is exciting to try new things and we just need to make time to use them.  Subhubby enjoys photography as a hobby; what better way to use his skills than to take photos of his Mistress in her new mask?  We've come up with some ideas for photos, I need an avatar for my profile and so does he.  The internet has been a great inspiration for boudoir photography.

And then we started talking about our ideas for photography and we talked about a fantasy we both share; a three some.  Personally, it is a turn on to think about another man in the bedroom with us.  We both like the idea of wearing our masks while playing with another man, all while subhubby takes photos.  I'd like to make him take photos of another man entering me from behind; and not letting subhubby out of his cage.  I'd make him watch and be turned on, but not let him out to cum.

The world of chastity truly has opened our minds to ideas we never thought were possible.  Stay tuned, maybe we'll share some photos we take.

What changed?

Tonight sub hubby asked me what it was that made me change into a more dominating Mistress?  If you've been following our blogs, you'll know that when we first started experimenting with chastity I was not very dominating as a Mistress.  I would feel guilty for denying him and last minute tell him to cum.  One thing that did help was a book I would recommend to newbs; A Keyholders handbook by Georgia Ivey Green.  This was an easy read and provided many ideas that I still use today.  Something else that helped was actually work related and not sexual at all.  I began a masters program last year and have been taking some leadership courses offered through work with aspirations to one day be a manager.  These courses made me feel more confident in myself at work which in turn, helped me to feel more confident as a Mistress.  Each day is a new experience for us and we are loving this journey.
Continue following sub hubby and I as we share more about our lifestyle.
Until next time
~Mistress Good Wife

Caged cock or free cock?

If you've read subhubby's latest blog, you know that he is unlocked for a week due to an upcoming doctor appointment.  I've always loved the power of stroking him hard. Long before we began experimenting with chastity, I would get wet just by feeling his hard cock. I've often made him stroke his cock while I masturbate beside him because it turns Me on to hear his hand rubbing up and down to stroke his cock.

I've really come to enjoy Chastity.  I was skeptical at first. Why would he want to be locked up, isn't that weird? Would I really enjoy controlling when he gets hard and can O?  Yes, yes, yes!!! Being busy with work, home ownership, a child, and beginning a masters program last year all led to the decrease in sexual playing....... Chastity helped to increase our time together and we find that we play most nights of the week. Because of this, I will miss the case this week.

I will miss the cage, but also will enjoy his time out of the cage just because I love to walk up to him and feel his cock through his pants. I enjoy stroking him, bringing him to the edge but then denying his orgasms.

I'm also curious how he will do with the week of freedom. I've told him that I don't want him to masturbate without permission and an orgasm is off limits unless I give him instructions to cum. I enjoy watching his face while he cums, hearing his moans as he gets close..... It makes Me slightly jealous to find out he masturbates and I'm not watching.

We'll keep you posted about the week of freedom!

Mistress Good Wife